Coparenting with a Lousy Ex

You've gotten through the divorce, or maybe it's still in progress. You know what you need. You know what your kids need. You have an action plan, you're checking off your list... Then along comes Lousy.SUPPORTING EACH OTHER AS PARENTS WILL MAKE FOR A HAPPIER KID.

Being married to a lousy spouse is trying enough, but being divorced from a lousy who is still a part of your life is a constant reminder of everything that you're trying to escape. You want your kids to love Lousy, even if you don't.

Lousy's typically put themselves first, before you, before the kids. Remember, you are not dealing with the person that you married and had beautiful, wonderful children with...you are dealing with a Lousy. Remind yourself of that, and remember that your beautiful, wonderful children got all of their finest traits from your side of the family. Everything else, you get to blame on Lousy, natch!

Lousy's generally like to antagonize and if they have an "ax to grind" against you for some unknown reason...brace yourself. Lousy's will not return calls, expose the kids to whomever they choose, bribe the children with toys, junk food, late bedtimes. Remember, Lousy is lousy and you will have the last laugh. Just see them for the feeble little people they are...too weak to face themselves, and to own their actions. That is what makes them Lousy. Try not to focus on that....but focus on your free time, and use it productively. Our happily married counterparts do not have the luxury of these uninterrupted pockets of free time....

There are books on this subject, and we can't claim to be experts, but we're dealing with this on a daily basis.

Also, try opening a google calendar to share. This way you can post particular events...court dates, therapist dates, children's schedules, and you can both login. This way, you don't have to deal with Lousy! Brilliant!! Thank you Google!!

Check back here again soon, we're trying to compose our thoughts without being too offensive. It's not easy.