attorneys are now back at it because the narcissist lousy just can't let it go. His hateful and angry hostile spew is all over the nasty letter my attorney just received. Mind you the divorce was final over a year 1/2 ago. He is now trying to make me out as mentally ill abusing my children. Nice.

What I am telling you all is this: Document EVERYTHING. communicate in writing. Keep notes. God I am so Glad that I have done this. I just bombarded my attorney with a thousand documents in this short period of time. Will cost me afortune for her to sift through but these morsels of information will put the dog in his place. Really he is just very stupid or not "quite well" if you know what I mean. I can't believe that I have to respond to the crap he wrote. IT is unimaginable.

I just want to live in peace.

Be very careful not to sink to his level!!! This happens too often.
Once they pay child support for a year or two, Lousy will decide that they don't need to do that anymore and they think it'll be easier to raise the kids themselves. It's a common Lousy play... especially if they have a new spouse that they can bully into raising the kids for them. It seems that they don't want to be parents, they just want to hurt you and have some victory after failing as a spouse and a parent.
It's good to document everything - always, but cull through emails and messages and keep it relevant to their motives and illustrate their methods. You're right that it'll cost a fortune, so edit when you can because there may be a point that the lawyers determine a settlement and the judge will never see or hear any of Lousy's crazy crap.
Good luck. Pay attention, survivors! It doesn't end...

Thanks for the heads-up. I've been documenting everything, because I do not trust him; I never will. I keep all responses professional and positive; he still (almost 2 years later) is resorting to games of "I'm the better parent."

This plan of his is reaching an even more interesting level with his plan to move back to town (although his job is 1 1/2 hours away, and his part-time wife is 4 hours away). Sure, that makes him look very stable (not to mention that everyone in my small town knows what a jerk he is - ditching his family, running off and getting married, etc..). He has set his stage well, and he is dumb enough to return to a hostile town that doesn't like him or his wife...

I am expecting to have to go back for another fight...but, this time, I am prepared. :)

i am sorry for your experience, and I hope that the law will do the right thing by you...

I am sorry to see this site end, Jane; thank you for this forum and for its support...

Also, you guys can call it! Now that it's about 1 1/2 years out (and LS has been paying child support for almost 2 years), he suddenly thinks that HE should spend more time with them, that HE would do more, that HE should have them... The funny part is, I have done nothing wrong; I stay as much on the straight and narrow than I ever have in my life before kids because I don't want to make a mistake. It's nerve wracking, and I feel paranoid, but I know the game before it's played, and I will NOT stoop to his level..or give him ammo...

The kids know him, I know him...the entire town that he left knows him...it's a ploy, but it's a game that I am prepared for.

Jane I am going to miss you and your support. You don't know how much you helped me through this terrible time. It's never over, but we have to prevail, endure, and survive. Many thanks.

I am so glad to see this site end. Your vicious attack against your Ex has been hard to watch. To see you stoop to such a low level showed your true colors. At least now your kids will not grow up knowing how hurtful and bitter you were after the divorce. Now, hopefully you will learn that you were very wrong. Sorry it took lawyers for you to realize this.

Bobby - you are in for a disappointment, as we are not gone yet.
I'm not sure who's vicious attacks you are referring to as there are so many hurt people that have shared their stories here in our Forum. As for the rest of this site, it is not for attacking but for offering advice.
Low levels? We take the high road - we're so much better than Lousy. Lousy is the one that send us here, to figure out how we go on when our lives our turned upside down.
If you are defending Lousy - any Lousy, then you are the same stuff that we try to scrape off our shoes. I guess I think of this site as the astroturf mat we have to use to completely clean it off - abrasive, yet effective. So Bobby, if you have a problem with us, then it's most likely you are a Lousy or a Lousy Supporter. We all hope that you get what's coming to you.
Good luck, and buzz off!